Monday, May 15, 2006

My Man Dave

Some of my students (I teach Speech at Lethbridge Community College) were very curious about what the Human Body Project event was like for Dave, the guy I live with and to whom I will be imminently married.

Okay, it's one thing to be me: intense, driven, out there. But I'm used to myself. I often sympathize with Dave for being the person who is with me. When I committed to doing this (i.e. it was no longer just an idea), we both freaked out I think. I was panic-stricken at the thought of being so exposed. He did not like the idea of sharing his woman that way.

When I understood where his discomfort was coming from it was easier for me. I had thought it was about him thinking I was crazy and I have big issues with being dismissed that way.

Looking at the tape and photos from the event makes me very happy that I am going to be the wife of this man. In his eyes I see real love, respect and support. How he felt hasn't been a big subject of conversation (I did ask but perhaps you hadn't heard about men and how they aren't overly motivated to talk about their feelings?). But I know that I am supported and it means a great deal to me. Maybe he'll comment about it on the blog one day.

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